I’m happy to start a new series of articles to help those of you who are hurting because of a heartbreak, a loss or a feeling of being stuck & unfulfilled. First, I want you to know you’re not alone. I’ve been there, and I now wish to help you get beyond your pain. How? There’s no miraculous formula to heal your heartbreak and pain but you can change your perspective on what pain is and how to turn it in greater love & wisdom, so you can regain your spark.
When you experience a heartbreak and/or loss, the pain you feel is not something you have to reject, to numb and escape. Pain is a precious information that something in you has to change now. We so often have been taught to run from pain and seek only joy. Hold on, I’m not telling you to love pain and seek it, I’m telling you that you have to shift your perception of it. Pain needs to be understood to be healed or it will stay and come back again and again. And if you wonder what do you need to do to start your healing? The answer is that your need to start your journey of understanding, so you can get to the root of the matter – behavior is the symptom, wound is the cause. Let me reframe: What triggers you and what you react to is the symptom, your deeper wound is the cause.
No one can heal your heart, your soul, your life but yourself.
Healing is uncovering your truth, identifying your unworkable patterns, unlearning, breaking free from conditioning and disempowering beliefs, releasing past wounds, paradigms, shifting your belief system, letting go so much people and always learning new things.
I must tell you that this journey is not easy, and this is not something you can do overnight! This journey of healing requires a willingness to understand why you experience repeated heartbreaks and so much pain. Usually, we don’t commit to this journey until we endure an extreme level of suffering, repeated pain cycles, a deep inner struggle or/and a loss of a dear one. I can share with you that I’ve started this journey ten years ago; I’ve been restlessly uncovering my truth, identifying unworkable patterns, unlearning, breaking free from conditioning and disempowering beliefs, releasing paradigms, shifting my belief system, letting go so much people and always learning new things. This is what healing yourself is about. Healing yourself and the growth process are a mourning and a rewarding experience as the same time. It’s an enlightening journey, it’s a reset so you remember who you really are and what is your purpose.
I’ve myself experienced so much pain and I’ve been around so much people suffering that I’ve become tenaciously curious to understand why I was suffering and why people do. The only solution for me was to search and understand how I could have a better experience of life and alleviate my pain. As Rumi said: “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
It took me so many years to understand and accept that my pain was my best teacher to heal myself. What I’ve discovered on my own journey is my passion for writing, art and self-help; they are amazing modalities for personal transformation. Healing is a spiritual journey; I learnt to intuitively use those modalities to heal myself and I’ve also been guided and helped by fabulous teachers. I now want to help people gain clarity on their unworkable emotional and mental patterns and limited beliefs so they can regain their spark.
Life is a permanent change; we permanently experience death (end) and rebirth (new beginning) before dying. The only real thing we can get from life is the growth that comes by experiencing it. You can heal yourself, it’s about your understanding and your releasing of what doesn’t work for you.
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article edited on 9/21/18