This week, I’d like to mention the art of valuing yourself more than people do. This one is very important for everyone but above all for the creative people who make art! If you value people’s opinion, validation, or the comments left or not by people on your work more than you do, you give your power away! The risk is that you stop creating just because you don’t get the outcome you wish and get discouraged. The era of social networks is making this more relevant because it’s very easy to fall in the trap of seeking instant gratification, comparing yourself with others or making your worth depending on the number of likes you get. No way! If you like what you do and if you find meaning in it, keep doing it anyway! This is my genuine thought! Remember if you impact 1 person, it’s better than doing nothing and making 0 impact. 1>0
You can value and be honored by people’s feedback, you can listen to the critics, you have to accept that some people don’t resonate with your work and don’t like it. The most important thing is that you value yourself properly and what you do first and foremost! Your job is to create and manifest your vision, not to babysit your work from bad comments. The value you place on yourself is the only thing you can control. If you don’t value your energy investment, time, presence etc. no one will value it for you. You have to determine how external factors influence your inner sense of worth and value not the other way around!
There is also the “fear of being visible” for who you really are. I’ve personally struggled with this fear during a long time. Putting myself out there with my first novel “Subjuguer me fascine”, in 2017, made me become aware of how I was literally terrified to be seen through my writing. I now understand that behind the challenge of writing and publishing my first book, the fear of being seen was underlying. I remember I felt like suddenly I was “naked” and I couldn’t hide myself anymore. It was a very challenging moment! Looking backwards, I see that this fear was holding me back and overcoming it was the only way to liberate me, self-acknowledge my truth, make a way for my self-expression and consuming passion for writing. At this moment the pain of holding back my words, my truth, my art became stronger than the fear of being visible.
It took me years to learn to surrender the path of seeking instant gratification and break free from the fear of being visible. I learned these soul lessons through my creative process and my relationships too!
There is a quote of the writer Anais Nïn that I like to share:
On the same topic, I’d like to share also a video of one of my inspiring mentors, Gary Vee.
Thank you for reading me, you can leave your comments. Keep creating whatever makes you feel connected to joy and take care of your soul.
With love*, Sarah